Dogs: They Never Ghost Us or Abandon Us

“Everyone knows that dogs can be firehose-like gushers of unqualified love.”  Today I enjoyed an essay from The New York Times by Amy Sutherland on the incredible love connection between dogs and humans: Opening the Heart’s Floodgates, With A Paw. Our beloved dog companions might eat our shoes or snatch a piece of roast beef off our plate, but they won’t hold back a single measured ounce of loving us with reckless abandonment. No matter what. People let us down. They wound with words, walk off in frustration, give or take away permission to love or to be loved back, make unspoken rules about when, how, and where they will love us, or flat out abandon us. But dogs, they are like tulips in spring or snow in winter–they make sense, their affection is beautifully predictable, and they do what we expect them to at exactly the right moments in time: they love us, plain and simple. And in doing so, they give us a space to love them back, plain and simple. With everything we have.

Everyone knows that dogs can be firehose-like gushers of unqualified love. Humans, in contrast, have always struck me more as takers than givers, fickle lovers who are cagey with their affections and hearts. But in watching people tumble for goofballs like Ciera, I saw that my own species longs, maybe even needs, to gush unqualified love too, something we rarely do with other humans, even with a mate.

A dog may eat our Italian loafers but will never ghost us, or say, “We need to have a talk.” With them, we can let it all hang out. At the shelter, that’s what people did with our one-eyed pugs, our ancient hounds with bald patches and juveniles who hopped like kangaroos.

Watching people fall in love so completely with dogs, I began to see how humans long to give their hearts away.


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Some stories from home, some from travel adventures (usually in autumn), some happening in community, friendship and faith, and some about the vulnerable, lonely and excluded. To honour them because they have changed me for the better and taught me how to love more fully and be loved more fully. Some days are great, some good, some not always good. But overall, it's been a beautiful journey so far, and I feel more like myself every day. -- Debra, writer / photographer / blogger / traveller

6 thoughts on “Dogs: They Never Ghost Us or Abandon Us

    1. Thanks so much for your post link… Koby is beautiful and I’m so glad to hear how you have received comfort from your pets. Just tonight I am dog sitting for a friend. While here, fever took over me. The dog has been cuddling and sleeping with me for hours! I look forward to seeing more of your posts.

    1. Inspired by my sitting buddy Rhonda! Every so often, I get to housesit, and she is my bestie when I do. Love having her company–it cheers me up so. Thanks for stopping by and glad you enjoyed the post–hugs back to you!

  1. Dogs are sooo sweet!! I love watching animal rescues on the YouTube channel called Hope For Paws – they’re a rescue team based in LA. I highly recommend their videos! <3

    1. thanks Maggie, I’ll have to check out the YouTube Channel. I’m sure I’ll love it! THanks for commenting here–I love dogs as well! So much.

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